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Life isn’t fair, is it? Men seem to get all the breaks. You’ve devoted most of your 20’s to establishing your career. It is not that you haven’t been dating you have, just not seriously. Now here you are 30 something and there is no long term relationship in sight.

You can actually hear your biological clock ticking. You have precious few years to find a man to fall in love with, make him fall in love with you, get married, and have a baby or it’s lights out. You already know all of the men in your social circle. Not that they aren’t nice guys, some of them, but none of them is your soul mate. What’s a girl supposed to do?

Think about online dating. You have the chance to read hundreds of profiles and look at hundreds of pictures in search of that someone that will be right for you. Maybe he lives in the same city you do maybe he will live across the country or even in another country altogether. You aren’t limited to only those men that you come in contact with personally. The possibilities are almost endless.

Is online dating safe, you might ask? Aren’t the online dating sites made up entirely of perverts, sexual predators and weirdos in assorted shapes and sizes? the short answer is, no they aren’t. Not any more anyway, if they ever were.

(Maybe|Perhaps that was true when online dating first started but now it is main stream. It’s as safe as you make it using common sense and sound judgment. Use the same precautions that you would when meeting any stranger: ie don’t give him your full name, address or mobile phone number until you feel quite comfortable doing so.

These days, the Internet is more regulated than previously. It is still very open, but now there are many honest business people on the Internet who regulate their websites, including dating agencies, in order to weed out the trouble makers. You can help make Internet dating safer too by informing the webmaster of the online dating agency if one of the members acts obnoxiously while online. I’m sure the miscreant will be kicked out.

Don’t rush into a face-to-face meeting until you are confident and then make the first meeting in a public place and during the daytime. Give it a try! Mr. Right just might be a few mouse clicks away

Once a couple marries, they usually settle into the day-to-day routine quickly. Work, household chores and bill paying become the norm and the wedding slowly fades into memory. For every couple there is one day a year where they can fondly remember and celebrate their special day. This is their wedding anniversary and for those closest to them, including parents and children, giving the not-so-newlyweds a gift to commemorate their important day is a lovely gesture. Anniversary gift baskets are one of the most perfect items you can give because you can personalize it to suit the interests of the recipients.

Make It Yourself to Make It Special

A very typical present for a married couple is a bottle of wine. Many couples have a preference for either red or white wine, but if you are including a spirit when you are preparing anniversary gift baskets, consider upping it a notch and give champagne instead. This is really the only way to celebrate and the lucky couple will be thrilled. You can also include two really lovely champagne flutes in the anniversary gift baskets, along with some fine German chocolate and fresh strawberries.

If you want to give something that’s off the beaten path there are many ideas you can draw from. Anniversary gift baskets can be crafted that include everything you need to prepare a Chinese food dinner or a barbeque feast. You can also give anniversary gift baskets that ooze romance. Consider a basket filled with luscious body creams and bubble baths. Complete this gift with some scented aromatherapy candles and you’ve got a present they are likely to never forget.

For the gift givers among us that may not be very crafty there are still some great anniversary gift baskets that are unique and ready to go. Companies will make the baskets to order, with pleasure. A fun choice would be to pick up one of the anniversary gift baskets that are themed, such as a movie night basket. A basket of this type would probably include a few new release DVD movies, some soda and of course some microwave popcorn. Another great idea is a nibbler basket filled with decadent treats that the happy couple can indulge in. Choosing some imported chocolates and delicious cookies is a sure winner.

No matter if you purchase a ready made basket or jump in and do the work yourself, anniversary gift baskets are a perfect gift for any couple. Everybody loves to receive a gift, and one received in honor of their special day will be appreciated by the happy couple.

I know what you’re thinking. Rome was not built in a day, and great relationships take time to develop and nurture. That deeper loving, relating and understanding takes energy, commitment and focus.

There is no substitute for great – honest -to goodness advice when making good relationship decisions. It will be your saving grace when you need to honesty look at yourself, mate or situation – in order to make serious decisions.

In our fast lives and soppy romantic movies, we are fooled in to believing that relationship success is easy and effortless. No one ever takes the time to explain the strategies that could be implemented, the understanding that needs to be nurtured. Somehow it’s all implied – by default you should know what works and what doesn’t.

As if.

What is one to do – if people refer to you as either a doormat or a quitter depending on whether you stay in a miserable situation or leave.

Now that over two thirds of marriages end in divorce, the importance of good quality advice is paramount. Keep your eyes and ears open, right from the beginning. Make silent notes (or even written) of the behaviour that bothers you and don’t make excuses for them. Similarly don’t have unreasonable or unrealistic expectations.

Fore-warned is Fore-armed.

Look Out For These Unhealthy Relationship Types

1. The Aggressive

Sounds pretty obvious ladies and gents, but any form of physical abuse is not to be tolerated. Get out now especially if children are involved.

Your safety is of the highest importance. If you still desire to work on the ‘relationship’ only do so from a safe distance, and only if your safety can be guaranteed.

Remember you are not their parent or therapist. Do not try and ‘fix’ or ‘help’ them as they will never grow and will always depend on you. We are all only responsible for own happiness and nobody else’s. I recommend that you get professional advice in this situation.

2. The Bitter Pill

They are never happy for you or your achievements. They never notice a new shirt, haircut, or accessory. They seek any opportunity to mimize your success and every opportniuty to highlight a negative occurance or mistake.

Putting other people down, makes their feeble egos feel better. They are energy and emotional leeches.

Using a neutral third party may be useful in getting them to see their behaviour in the light of day. Assuming you still want to work on the relationship. If not – get out fast while you still have your self respect intact.

3. The Love Rat

They are very suspcious when it comes to your cell phone and emails, but are very secretive about their business. You feel something is not right, but can’t quite figure out why.

They love to project their guilty selves on to you – making you responsible for their suspicions, moods, stress and taxes.

Get investigating and get out soon.

4. The Power Hungry

Does the thought of you spending time with friends and family – bring on a case of the severe sulk?

Does your beloved suddenly become sick, stuck in traffic or experience something ‘major’ at work just before your big night out?

They are threatened by those who are importance to you. They are still insecure and threatened despite all your reassurances.

Ask yourself how long you are willing to put up with this? However if you wish to work on this – do so with the help on a neutral third party.

5. The Libido Has Left The Room

If one of you has had a severe nose dive in the libido department, then this could pose some problems in the future. This also applies if you have hugely different drives.

It may be that a bit of support and understanding could make all the difference. Discuss things openly with your lover and act accordingly

A healthy, honest and sensitive approach is recommended in this situation. Try and look beyond the obvious, as problems in the bedroom could actually be a cover for other feelings such as anger, lack of intimacy, fatigue and resentment.

6. The Hippy or Wild Spirit

They belong to the 60’s – carefree yet not so single.

They may actually be in more need of a parent then a partner. Often needy, posessive, and irresponsible they love to be taken care of.

You will end up drained, tired and resentful as you end up giving more than you get.

7. In Need of Repair

Possessing a ‘victim mentality’ they have a long catalogue of hurts.

If only they had the strength and courage to write these hurts down and pick out the patterns.

Due to the fragile nature of their egos, they will never accept your love and attention as the ‘real deal’.

You may want to involve a neutral third party so that their negativity can be pointed out to them. You may end up tired of re-assuring them. You have been warned.

8. Self Love Gone Too Far

Indulged by a parent or parents from day one – they can do no wrong. It’s all your fault.

Attachment to the adoring parent runs deep. Therefore they are always the cute and innocent party.

It’s time to come back down to earth. Get a neutral third party involved if they do not believe you.

If they still do not see the light, give them their marching orders.

9. Hygiene – Not Just for The Kitchen

What is that smell?! If you’re like me and your stomach is not so strong, then poor personal and hygiene habits could make you run for the hills. Speed is of the essence.

We all value hygiene and self care. Ask yourself why you would want to spend time with someone who hasn’t bothered to look and smell good for you.

10. Hellooo – I do Exist

These people care more about themselves than you. That’s the cold, hard truth of it. They want you to fuss over them, be there for them, but do think of expecting anything in return.

Clarify your needs and boundaries immediately. State the minimum standards you expect in terms of good manners and consideration. If you still have to tell them after the second warning, they are ‘out’.

You are not their slave. Get out pronto.

Now that you have the ‘ 10 signs ‘ under your belt, you will be far more prepared when dealing with difficult situations. However always keep in mind that your behaviour may also have something to do with theirs. Therefore always first look at yourself and how you are contributing to the relationship. If you feel that you have been civil and reasonable, have honestly expressed your thoughts and things still haven’t improved (despite some neutral third party help), then it’s time to make some tough decisions.

Just keep in mind that you deserve to be treated with respect, consideration, and appreciation at all times.

May you always be happy!