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Life isn’t fair, is it? Men seem to get all the breaks. You’ve devoted most of your 20’s to establishing your career. It is not that you haven’t been dating you have, just not seriously. Now here you are 30 something and there is no long term relationship in sight.

You can actually hear your biological clock ticking. You have precious few years to find a man to fall in love with, make him fall in love with you, get married, and have a baby or it’s lights out. You already know all of the men in your social circle. Not that they aren’t nice guys, some of them, but none of them is your soul mate. What’s a girl supposed to do?

Think about online dating. You have the chance to read hundreds of profiles and look at hundreds of pictures in search of that someone that will be right for you. Maybe he lives in the same city you do maybe he will live across the country or even in another country altogether. You aren’t limited to only those men that you come in contact with personally. The possibilities are almost endless.

Is online dating safe, you might ask? Aren’t the online dating sites made up entirely of perverts, sexual predators and weirdos in assorted shapes and sizes? the short answer is, no they aren’t. Not any more anyway, if they ever were.

(Maybe|Perhaps that was true when online dating first started but now it is main stream. It’s as safe as you make it using common sense and sound judgment. Use the same precautions that you would when meeting any stranger: ie don’t give him your full name, address or mobile phone number until you feel quite comfortable doing so.

These days, the Internet is more regulated than previously. It is still very open, but now there are many honest business people on the Internet who regulate their websites, including dating agencies, in order to weed out the trouble makers. You can help make Internet dating safer too by informing the webmaster of the online dating agency if one of the members acts obnoxiously while online. I’m sure the miscreant will be kicked out.

Don’t rush into a face-to-face meeting until you are confident and then make the first meeting in a public place and during the daytime. Give it a try! Mr. Right just might be a few mouse clicks away

Dating advice is abundant on the Internet, in magazines, books, newspapers and on TV. There was even an eight year old kid who wrote a book filled with sound dating advice. (That kid really is pretty clever and must be pretty popular with the girls, because although fairly basic, all of his dating advice is good sense. |If you read the book, you will be forced to agree that that eight-year-old kid does know what he’s on about and that he keeps it simple. And that is the point really: when it comes to dating, keep things simple.

Leave your past behind you. It’ll only get you bogged down. The first thing any dating-counsellor would advise you is that a fresh start is important for a date to go well. Talking to your date about how your ex mistreated you is definitely not the way forward. Sometimes it isn’t even necessary to talk, and a person who has been hurt once may be over suspicious of any new relationship and this could show in their attitude toward their date.

‘Do as you normally do – just be yourself’ is surely the best dating advice there is. Without dobt, people like to excel, to shine and impress their date, but faking it will only make both you and your date feel uncomfortable.

Tempering your expectations to be neither too high nor too low is also very good dating advice. Expecting too much out of just one date or of the person you are dating, is bound to end up disappointing you (both). Let’s face it, your date is only human and so are you; and first dates are notoriously a bit awkward.

One of the most frequently asked questions is: who foots the bill? The consensus in dating advice is that he/she who suggested the date pays. However, other people declare that it’s better to go Dutch every time and avoid hassles. There is yet another school of thought on dating advice that suggests that the man is not a “gentleman” if he doesn’t pick up the tab. In the case of a difference of policy between you and your date, come to a compromise that is mutually acceptable.

Texting your date before meeting is also a good idea as it puts him or her at ease and allows you to discuss interests and hobbies in an informal and less tense environment than a first date would be. This gives you something to work with if conversation lags.

The most important bit of dating advice though, is to remember that no one date is a deal-breaker. No date is the end, so if one doesn’t work out, why worry, there will be others. And if they doesn’t work, there are plenty of other people to go out with.